Inspire 2019

Procrastination isn't always a sign of laziness, and not diving into tasks immediately doesn't necessarily mean you're slothful. Sometimes, your soul craves a break without you even realizing it. It's like needing to kick off your shoes and give your mind, body, and soul a refreshing reset. Institutions have breaks and holidays because our bodies aren't built for constant overdrive. We're designed to work for a stretch and then take a break. Overloading your body with pressure can lead to collapse, and no matter how hardworking you were, you won't have the energy to push forward. Putting undue pressure on yourself to meet artificial deadlines is counterproductive. I can confidently share this because I used to be in that position—working so hard that I'd burn out. Tasks would pile up, and I'd beat myself up, thinking I was lazy and committing one of the seven deadly sins— slothfulness. This led to cycles of depression, periods of feeling stuck, bounc...

Do you ever sense a peculiar cloud hanging over you, despite the positive momentum in your life? It's as if, no matter how many milestones you achieve, the ideal destination remains elusive.   Consider this: today, you proudly receive a Guinness World Records award for your exceptional talent, only to find tomorrow that the year is ending, and that stubborn extra belly fat persists. It's a constant balancing act between accomplishments and the unmet expectations of where you envision yourself.   Could it be self-sabotage, a deficiency in gratitude, or the incessant urge to compare yourself to others? The weight of self-imposed expectations can make it feel like you're consistently falling short in the race of life, burdened by undue pressure.   In those moments, be kind to yourself. Despite scrutinizing imperfections and fixating on minor setbacks, acknowledge the many great achievements throughout the year. Life is an intricate blend of short and long journey...

I’ve found peace in pain! I’ve found peace in strain! I’ve found peace in not catching the last train! For it’s all fleeting! It is never long lasting! It comes strong like the whirlwinds in the harsh season! But it passes eventually like every season ! It’s always here for a reason ! But it goes away when the time is right! Like a thief fleeing away into the night!  I’ve found peace in joyless-ness! I’ve found peace in loneliness! I’ve found peace in craziness! The chaos in life with the confusion it always brings ! Like hail storms it will rain down and break a few things!  But that too shall be swept away !  It’s only there for a spell!  Eventually only time will tell! How long it will stay!  But eventually it shall go away!  Peace comes at the break of dawn! It eventually comes and clears the things that fell down! And then everything that happened won’t be in vain! With pain comes gain! With disappointment comes discernment! Agony comes with a testimon...

You owe yourself a good life! You deserve to see all your dreams come true! African women are strong resilient women! We are hard working yet very feminine! We can carry babies on our backs and carry pots full of responsibility on your heads! Yet we still manage to kneel down to show respect to our elders and husbands.  We are an economic powerhouse that the world can no longer deny!  We stun on runways and we rock the white color jobs! There’s nothing in this world more beautiful than the dark rich chocolate melanin that drips of confidence and never aging; never fading beauty! Black women deserve happiness and softness and with our intelligence we can give ourselves a beautiful life.  I see women that haven’t gone to school make crafts out of beads and banana fibers. Now that’s raw art! I see women deep in the village fold grass into a beautiful weave to carry pots of water from the well.  An art form as beautiful as a bird’s delicately crafted nest.  Get up m...

 It’s no one’s responsibility to heal you. No body is in charge of monitoring your triggers and walking around you carefully like you’re some  delicate bomb ready to explode anytime .  No one should have to walk on eggshells around you because you are not doing the right steps and putting in the effort to heal.  I used to bask in my damage and brokenness. I was completely comfortable surviving on the failing crutches of my pain.  The warm embrace of depression covered me completely like a warm blanket in the cold of winter and I hugged it back even tighter. Me and my depression had trauma bonded like how you would with a narcissist ; and we were quite enjoying our relationship. My demons loved me and were always there for me in the dark of the night as I cried my eyes out when nobody else was there. I loved them too. I never was alone when the lights went out! Naturally, I saw no point of healing. I was loved by what tormented me and I was not alone as long as I...

 To say 2022 was overwhelming is an understatement. I had the worst beginning of the year until the start of the last quarter of the year.  My depression was on an all time high; there was chaos after chaos.  My house was on fire and nothing could extinguish it. My anxiety was through the roof. I was on meds after meds. I got premature low blood pressure for a spell but in the end I survived and I'm completely cured now. Last year I was going through lots of drastic changes from; emotional, financial, mental and spiritual.  I was living in pain and agony for years prior to 2022. I was literally in survival mode for about 7 years of my life.  I barely slept, ate or couldn't stop myself from crying ; every night and sometimes days. Consequently,  I had to move back to my parent's home. I literally needed that break after four years of living with  no real general direction.  I had so much pressure on myself to be perfect even if I had very little pr...