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Stitching up wounds


Every single one of us is trying to heal from something: broken relationships, messed up friendships, dysfunctional family, depression and lots of other disappointments in our every day life.
Therefore, I try to be patient, tolerant and kind to everyone that rants or tries to tell me about what they are going through.

It is so easy to tell people to move on and get over it. It's almost natural to tell people to stop being so negative and just pretend to be happy. But what you're doing is pushing people into a darker place.
You're encouraging them to stretch their mouth out in a hurtful fake smile that will later turn into tears at night and nothing will ever be solved at the end of the day!

Our society today preaches the "fake it till you make it lifestyle." And that is why suicide and depression are at an all time high today.
We are walking wounded souls with zombie like routine smiles to make everyone comfortable.
Pain is weakness and vulnerability is negativity today. No one wants to deal with what's really going on anymore lest they be judged.

They'd rather suffer in silence and appear cool and like they have it together.
And social media doesn't even help as everyone looks like their life is better than yours and that's where the competition really begins.
Dare I say, we live in one of the "worst generations" because now strangers get to see and judge your life behind a computer screen and this makes the need to be validated and appear perfect so consuming and almost "necessary."

It is sad and unfortunate but that is where we have headed.
People want to follow rich, vibrant and beautiful people.
So many times I've seen people including myself post "I'm not OK" , "I can't go on like this anymore" , "I'm constantly in tears" and suddenly you barely have any friends to come to your rescue.

Yet when you're "having a good time" , "money is coming in". Suddenly, you're the most popular individual and all 4000 of your friends come out.
So much hypocrisy and shallowness and yet that's how far digital advancements have brought us. A

I refuse to be a part of that culture because I believe that when you don't fix what's broken or wounded, you begin to bleed on others who don't deserve it.
It becomes a repetitive pattern and before you know it, you're back to zero with every new friendship and relationship you have.

Let's embrace the healing process and find outlets however hard it becomes. Let's encourage people we know to talk to us and provide solutions the best  way we can because everyone deserves to heal from whatever baggage they are carrying.
No one deserves to sleep and wake up with a heavy heart.
Remember everyone is trying to heal from something so be kind and listen. Tomorrow might just be you!

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