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"You're beautiful, you're amazing, you're "bae goals", you're kind, you're worthy, you're hardworking and you're loveable."
Compliments that we often so easily give to other people to uplift their spirits and make them feel loved and worthy; like they're not alone and despite the storm, everything will be okay because they're strong and invincible.

However, it's so hard for us to look in the mirror and tell ourselves that we are all that and more.
We feel inadequate and almost like we're lying to ourselves when we repeat these same words to ourselves.
In fact, it takes a lot more convincing our own selves that we are worthy of compliments, that we are beautiful warts and all; and despite our flaws we deserve unconditional love and that love mostly comes from within.

A healthy sense of self love that is neither conceit nor vanity but exhibits self value and appreciation is perhaps the truest and highest form of pure love.
You are kinder to yourself and therefore you take better care of yourself, you criticize yourself less and instead work on bettering what you don't like about yourself.
You become honest and more intimate with yourself in ways you haven't been with anyone else because you in fact no yourself better than anybody ever feel.

A large mine of love is settled deep down in the pits of your undiscovered soul.
Like diamonds buried deep beneath the earth, it needs a lot of work to extract it out and enjoy its luxury.
Your time for awakening is drawing closer and your time to find true love is now. A love only you can give yourself. A love you were so comfortable giving others more than you did yourself.

"You're amazing, you're great, you're heaven sent." And you of all people deserve your pure and selfless unconditional love.
Only then can you love another with no limitations and boundaries.

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